One of the most common concerns clients share before or during therapy is: “I don’t know what to talk about.” Many worry that therapy requires a clear agenda, a crisis, or perfectly articulated thoughts. However, this perspective may have a stronger impact on the therapeutic process than one realises. What is a therapist’s view on this? Its simple - not knowing what to talk about is not a problem in therapy. Its normal and often a key starting point. In a therapeutic setting, confusion,...

In the therapy room, apologies often arrive quietly and instinctively. “I’m sorry for crying.” “Sorry, I’m not making sense.” “I’m sorry I’m talking about this again.” However, one needs to recognise that very often these apologies are not just a sign of politeness. They often reflect years of learning that one’s emotions are too much, inconvenient, or burdensome. Many people have spent a lifetime managing other’s comfort, minimising their own needs, or feeling responsible for how others...